Kids rarely follow parental instructions obediently and quickly. More often you have to repeat your requests several times. If at the same time you break down, the situation becomes deadlock: the crumbs go into themselves, ignore the annoying noise, and begin to do everything in defiance. How to negotiate with the children so that they obey?
Shout or be silent?
First of all, stop screaming. A child should perceive a voice increase as something extraordinary, serious, going beyond the general framework. If you start yelling for any reason and even without it, the baby will soon get used to it and stop even trying to listen to you.
Attract to your business?
If you are busy, and the baby does not lag behind with requests to play, you do not need to send him away or scream at him. The child just wants attention, he does so not from evil or with the goal of placing you. Explain what exactly you are doing, say that as soon as you finish, be sure to play along. In the meantime, let him see the cartoon, colorize the picture, leaf through the book.
Even better is to connect the baby to your business. If you cook, ask him to serve you food, wash dishes or clean the table. During cleaning, instruct the child to wipe the dust, put the toys in place, turn the vacuum cleaner on or off.
Is cleaning and baby compatible?
You should not force children to work, accusing them of laziness or that you have to clean up after them. Remember yourself at this age: did you often obey your parents? It is better to present cleaning in the form of a game. It will be interesting for a three-year-old baby to look for a ball rolling behind a sofa, while removing other toys on shelves or in boxes. Offer the eldest child a quest: mopping up dust equals two candies, mopping the floor - three, cleaning your room - five. You can also say that somewhere hidden is a gift that you need to find by putting things in their places.
If you have two children, arrange a competition - who will make the bed faster or wipe the dust. This can be interesting and exciting, and most importantly, boring work will be performed inconspicuously for kids. In the end, do not forget about small surprises for each of the participants.
And if you put an ultimatum?
You can’t put ultimatums, threaten, take away a laptop or tablet if the baby does not go to sleep in any way. The child will simply begin to boycott you. It is much more interesting to sit nearby and offer to dream about distant cities and countries, about a future profession, about adventures. You can discuss a cartoon or a book, play with words. The kid himself will not notice how he falls asleep.
Do not forget that a healthy child cannot be obedient and manageable. Intimidated children grow out of frightened, clogged, devoid of individuality people. By nature, the baby must make noise, run, jump, draw on wallpaper, hooligan. The task of parents is to direct this energy into a peaceful direction. And through simple games, you can get helpers for yourself, instill the necessary self-care skills and a love of work.
Activities with the child on vacation: how to organize?
If your child is already going to school, you probably would like him to work out a bit during the holidays. But this is not easy: children usually get so tired during the school year that they don’t even want to hear about any activities until September. What to do in order not to cause a storm of negative emotions in your address?
It is best to practice in the morning, until eleven o'clock, or in the evening, from sixteen to eighteen. Try to stick to a specific schedule by drawing it up with your child. In this case, be sure to consider his wishes.
Thirty to forty minutes a day will be enough to refresh knowledge and not be tired. Do not turn into a guard, do not sit over a schoolboy, do not force everything to do to the end and without errors. Vacations are a time for relaxation, and not all children understand the need for classes at this time. Create your own reward system. For each book you read, you can give a small gift, and at the end of the week the whole family goes to the zoo, circus, oceanarium. Present it as a holiday, as an event that gives positive emotions and new impressions before starting your studies.
